So You Have A Picky Eater?

If you have a picky eater, mealtime can make you feelTIP: PROVIDE VARIOUS CHOICES AROUND
like you want to pull your hair out. It is very frustratingMEALTIME. Would you rather sit by me or by
for parents to watch their child only fiddle with theirmommy? You can eat with a fork or a spoon which
food at dinner or not even touch it, claiming they "dontwould you prefer? Do you think you will need more
like it. Then what happens? Thirty minutes later guesspotatoes or is that enough? Have as much as you
who is hungry? You guessed it. Your little picky eater.think you will need to make it to dinner. Milk or juice?
Jamies mother was concerned about Jamie's lack ofShould we eat at 7:00 or 7:30?
interest in food. She stated, Jamie never wants to eatTIP: BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL. You know dear,
anything I fix for dinner. What can I do to encouragealthough spaghetti is not my favorite, I will eat it
Jamie to eat the meals that I have prepared? I camebecause I know how hard you worked to make it.
up with the following ten tips for her. You may findTIP: EXPOSURE. Encourage Jamie to try a variety of
them useful as well.foods early on in her life before she knows any
TIP: INVOLVE JAMIE. You could have Jamie help withdifferent. Some children may have never thought liver
planning the menu or meal preparation. Kids are lesswas gross if it hadnt been for what someone else had
likely to turn up their nose at something, they had aset their expectation to be.
hand in.TIP: PROVIDE SOME FLEXIBILITY. Let's remember
TIP: PLACE A LIMIT ON JAMIE. Perhaps Jamie isthere are some foods that certain children just can not
playing with her food at dinner and not real interestedstomach. If Jamie has a problem with spinach but it is
in eating it. Mom say's, Jamie, I will be serving breakfastpart of that particular meal, try to have other items that
at 7:00 a.m. try to eat enough to make it to then. Youshe can get her fill up on once everyone has their
decide how much you will need. Oh! We will beshare. However, this should be the exception rather
clearing the table in _____ minutes.than the rule.
When Jamie comes to you later that eveningTry letting Jamie dip her foods in sauces, dressings,
complaining of being hungry. With an understandingsyrups or ketchup. It may make them taste better to
tone, simply remind her that you will be servingher.
breakfast at 7:00 a.m. as usual. Jamie will most likely beTIP: MAKE MEALTIME ENJOYABLE. Try to talk
persistent about getting something else to eat. It isabout things other than eating at mealtime. Dinner is a
important that you follow through with the limit yougreat time to talk to Jamie about how her day went.
have placed. Otherwise, Jamie learns that you do notDuring breakfast, you could discuss what everyone
mean what you say and you lose your credibility withhas planned for the day.
her. You may have to tell her several times that youEveryone pitching in to help prepare the meal can
will be serving breakfast at 7:00 until she realizes thatteach Jamie an important family value. An added
your are not going to give in.bonus for children is that it can teach them important
Jamie: Mom Im hungry. Can I have some cookies?thinking skills regarding timing, measuring, colors,
Mom: Kids who eat all their dinner are welcome tocomparisons, counting, and cause and effect.
have a snack after.Be creative in the ways that you dish up Jamies food.
Jamie: But mom Im really hungry.Mold her mashed potatoes into a volcano, cut her
Mom: I know Jamie. I would be hungry too if I ate asmeat or sandwich into bite sized pieces and poke
little as you did for dinner, but dont worry I will be fixingtoothpicks in them, layout veggies in the shapes of
a big breakfast at 7:00 a.m.letters or numbers, or use a drop or two of food
Jamie: What? Do you want me to starve?coloring to make it more interesting.
Mom: Ill be serving breakfast at 7:00 JamieTIP: LIMIT SNACKING. For children to be hungry
Jamie: This isnt fair.enough to eat a meal they usually need to go two or
Mom: Ill be serving breakfast at 7:00 Jamiethree hours without food. However, it is difficult for
Jamie: Fine!children to go from noon to 6:00 p.m. without food. A
TIP: NOTICE THE EXCEPTIONS. Call attention to thenutritious snack after school should be fine to get
times when Jamie eats most of her meal. Wow! JamieJamie to dinner still having her appetite.
you ate everything on your plate. Good job. YouTIP: RECALL PAST SUCCESSES. Think back about
should be proud of yourself. Too often, we only noticetimes when Jamie has ate her meals. What were you
the negative aspects of our childrens behavior anddoing? Were you placing a lot of emphasis on her
that is what we reinforce with our negative attention.need to eat her food? What was she doing? What
TIP: CATER TO JAMIE'S DESIRE TO BE "BIG". Youwere you eating? What happened before the meal?
probably wont like this halibut Jamie. Usually, adults areThese kinds of questions may help you realize some
the only ones who like halibut." Guess what may justof the things you or Jamie is already doing which
become Jamies new favorite food?assist her in becoming a better eater.