Where Did My Mother Go?

Everything seemed to come easy for my motherWe moved back to the states when I was ten and
while I was growing up.  She was known for hermom continued to amaze dad, me, my three other
gourmet cooking; especially her Japanese cooking.  siblings along with the rest of the world with all her
Dad was in the Army and being a Japanesesuper abilities, gifts, and talents for many more years.
interpreter, had a couple tours stationed in Japan. In the year 2000 my father passed away.  My
While in Japan, Mom was always busy takingmother and father loved each other very much and
Japanese cooking classes, flower arranging classes,the shock of losing dad caused mother to have a
silk painting classes, or wandering the streets in Tokyoseries of small strokes that brought on a type of
for fabric to design suits for her and my father.  Yes,dementia that has Alzheimer's like symptoms.  We
she was a seamstress and a tailor too.  Everyonewatched her slowly lose each one of her abilities and
was in awe of mom.gifts and then her mind.  Her sewing skills went first,
If I was lucky, I would be able to talk her into taking methen her art and cooking.  As her skills disappeared I
with her to one of these classes.  She usually left mestarted becoming more involved in cooking and in art. 
with the maid, Matsukawa San, who loved me like herShe and I would spend the day together trying out
own.  In 1958 I was only about seven years old whennew recipes; she would give me advice and I would do
she took me to her flower arranging class in Tokyo.  Ithe labor.  I even started a full time art business so
was dressed in my red cotton shorts and striped shirt,mom could watch me work in the studio and be
with blond braids going in two different directions (youaround creative things.  I would have her sort items,
see I was quite a tomboy), sitting next to this beautifullike buttons and untangle trim, to help her feel
red headed woman in a tight gray pencil skirt, with ainvolved.  The last year and a half she was alive she
form fiting  sweater cinched in at the waist with awasn't able to do anything.  Her mind was no longer
gold leather belt, gold cuffed bracelet, red lipstick andhers.  She died February 2010.
high heeled sandals.  The Japanese ladies and menIt was so hard to watch our mother disappear…and I
thought mom was a movie star. would wonder where she, the mother I knew, went. 
She was beautiful.  Her skin was porcelain white withBut as the months have gone by and after much
freckles.  Her eyes were a beautiful hazel, her hair athought, I know where she went.  She is in us; her
deep auburn red and styled in the latest style.  Shefamily she left behind.  She has passed on her flower
was 5' 4' and weighed 115 lbs. with a 23" waist.  Herarranging and art skills to me and my son, her cooking
back was always straight and her legs were shapelyand sewing skills to my sister in law, sweetness and
as she walked with one foot directly in front ofsensitivity to my brother and her love of storytelling to
another (she always told my sister and me this wasmy sister.  Thank you mom.  You will always be with
the way ladies walked).us.